Here’s What You Should Do Whenever You Feel Entitled
We all have egos. But can you manage yours?
Do you ever find yourself trapped in the trap of entitlement, believing the world owes you something just because you put in the work?
When results are nowhere to be found, it’s easy to get discouraged, slowing down our pace, eventually putting out the fire.
We believe that we deserve special treatment, recognition, or success in return for our efforts. It’s a common human trait, and we’ve all been there.
However, the path to genuine success often involves a humble approach. In this blog post, we’ll explore the importance of managing our egos and nurturing humility as we strive for our goals.
1. Swallow the damn hard pill.
I’ve been slacking off over the weekend, feeling like an entitled b*tch. Yes, I’ve got the first step covered — awareness.
My sense of entitlement was justified by this new shift from analysis paralysis to finally taking action.
But looking closely, my efforts were few, intense bursts of activities. Yet, I was already expecting to reach the finish line, as if I’d just completed a marathon.
Whenever you feel entitled, it usually means misalignment. Ask yourself the tough questions:
- Are your efforts consistent?
- Have you set unrealistic expectations and rigid deadlines?
- Does your mindset align with your ambitious goals?
- Are your skills at a level that makes you indispensable?
- Is your marketing strategy effective, or does it need improvement?
Lay down your defenses and swallow them whole. Then ask yourself — what am I going to do about it?
Work with the tools and knowledge you have now. That’s the only way to douse your entitlement.
2. Focus on building systems.
Set SMART goals. Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound. We’ve heard that before, right?
However, sometimes, the timing aspect can lead to entitlement when self-imposed deadlines aren’t met. Instead of fixating on outcomes, shift your focus to building systems.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re a beginner or an expert coach. In my experience, both still voice the same sentiment that sounds like — I’ve been putting in the work for months. Why am I not seeing results?
The simplest system to build in your personal life is habits. If you’re starting a business, that would be standard operating procedures (SOPs).
Next time you ask for recognition or reward, take a moment first to reflect on your systems. Do they serve you well?
3. Choose your hard.
There’s a reason why we shouldn’t compare our hardships. What’s easy for you might be an enormous challenge for someone else.
For example:
- It’s hard becoming a parent. It’s also hard choosing to have a child-less life.
- It’s hard setting up your own business. It’s also hard working your way to the top of the corporate ladder.
- It’s hard to pursue a better life in a foreign country. It’s also hard to build a sustainable life in your home country.
What’s that hard path that you chose? Remember that whenever doubt seeps in.
Embrace the hardships as part of your journey, for often, there’s no better alternative.
4. Think big, act small.
I’ve read this book called “How To Get Rich” by Felix Dennis. He said, rich, successful people think big and act small.
THINK BIG: They have big, hairy goals. They don’t gatekeep ideas; instead, they scale them to bigger scales. They have this iron-clad belief that their solutions can change the world.
ACT SMALL: Yet, they also believe they succeeded because of dumb luck. They were simply at the right place at the right time. Although, it has to be said that getting to that ‘right place’ requires a lot of effort in self-improvement.
The next time you feel entitled, think big yet act small. Think about your mission and how it could help you serve the world better.
At the same time, respect the role of serendipity and the people who contribute to your success story.
Conclusion
Slow success builds character. Fast success builds ego.
In conclusion, success is more meaningful when it’s achieved with humility. By dousing the flames of entitlement and managing your ego, you’ll open yourself up to growth, stronger relationships, and a more fulfilling journey toward your goals.
Stay humble, stay hungry, and success will follow ❤
